nightcrawler
Senior Don Juan
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"can I have your number" or "what's your number" ?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Which is the better way of closing?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
nightcrawler
Senior Don Juan
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I would hope you would know that before asking for the number:crackup:Pierce said:whats your name.
it shows more confidence.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
moneyisking
Master Don Juan
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whats your number. well, what i do is basically "ya that's cool, hey let me get your number" and hand my cellphone to her so that she can type it herself.
What you actually say when it comes to getting a number is not important. What's crucial is how much rapport you've built with the girl and how invested she is in seeing you again.
Logistically, the best way is to get her to send a text to your phone from hers.
Logistically, the best way is to get her to send a text to your phone from hers.
nateistoraw
Don Juan
I do this tactic to validate her number on site1
Whats your number?
And then I say imma call yours so you can get my number as well.
Even if the number is fake, she will say, oh wait, I gave you my old number or some bullcrap.lol.
Whats your number?
And then I say imma call yours so you can get my number as well.
Even if the number is fake, she will say, oh wait, I gave you my old number or some bullcrap.lol.
Tyson420
Senior Don Juan
If she didn't want to give you the number at first wouldn't that be an indication of disinterest?
What's the point?
What's the point?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
nightcrawler
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"can I have your number" seems to sound needy, while "what's your number" seems pushyTyson420 said:If she didn't want to give you the number at first wouldn't that be an indication of disinterest?
What's the point?
Trendsetter
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I like you, you seem pretty cool or I think you're cool, we need to talk more, what's your number?
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