nightcrawler
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"can I have your number" or "what's your number" ?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Which is the better way of closing?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
nightcrawler
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I would hope you would know that before asking for the number:crackup:Pierce said:whats your name.
it shows more confidence.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
moneyisking
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whats your number. well, what i do is basically "ya that's cool, hey let me get your number" and hand my cellphone to her so that she can type it herself.
What you actually say when it comes to getting a number is not important. What's crucial is how much rapport you've built with the girl and how invested she is in seeing you again.
Logistically, the best way is to get her to send a text to your phone from hers.
Logistically, the best way is to get her to send a text to your phone from hers.
nateistoraw
Don Juan
I do this tactic to validate her number on site1
Whats your number?
And then I say imma call yours so you can get my number as well.
Even if the number is fake, she will say, oh wait, I gave you my old number or some bullcrap.lol.
Whats your number?
And then I say imma call yours so you can get my number as well.
Even if the number is fake, she will say, oh wait, I gave you my old number or some bullcrap.lol.
Tyson420
Senior Don Juan
If she didn't want to give you the number at first wouldn't that be an indication of disinterest?
What's the point?
What's the point?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
nightcrawler
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"can I have your number" seems to sound needy, while "what's your number" seems pushyTyson420 said:If she didn't want to give you the number at first wouldn't that be an indication of disinterest?
What's the point?
Trendsetter
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I like you, you seem pretty cool or I think you're cool, we need to talk more, what's your number?
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