"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Which girl should I go for?

brad jarry

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I'll try to make a long story short. Basically, I've liked this girl for about two weeks (We're in high school). At first, I was really pressed to get her attention and talked to her. Then I re-read some of the Don Juan bible and I got back to my senses and stop caring as much, but nonetheless, I still like her. We've been texting for about a week and it's been getting better. At first, she was boring and not interested, I guess, but now things are fine, although she's still a little hard to dissect.

I really like her, for a reason I might type later. But I told a few of my friends and they all tell me different things about her. Apparently, she's pansexual, already messes with another guy, and keeps a few guys around as sides. I know the pansexual part is true, I thought she was just bi, but either way, she's never even dated a girl or anything. I don't know if the rest is true, but despite all that, I still like her. After all, I don't see any of her supposed "sides" as competition.

But then last night, out of nowhere, this girl I used to like back in April hit me up and we started talking cuz we hadn't talked in months after a misunderstanding. Basically, we agreed on picking up where we left off (Because we both liked each other), but I don't know what I was thinking! I guess I was just in the zone while we're talking and figured, hey why not?
But I still like the first girl! Regardless of what people say about her, I still see us being a good couple. And I know she's loyal because of her exes.

But anyway yeah, I don't know what to do because I still want/like the first girl but now I've agreed to start talking to this other girl. Should I still try to go after the girl I want? Or should I forget about her and move on to the other?
I know the first girl has her problems (That of course, can be worked on with the right help) and the second girl is great, but I really don't know.

I know this was long, but any help is appreciated. Thank you.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Staticus

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I agree with the boys up top. Although, with the info you provided of the second girl I wouldn't put a whole lot of energy into her being as you already had a situation come up in what seems to be a months time (could be wrong but you just said April and I don't know the situation). The first girl seems like a good F buddy.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Magotrox

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Like Pook said: "Go for Many, for go for none." To me, you are putting to much value in those girls. You appear to be a little infatuated. Calm down. Go for both. Go for others too. You're young. There is a lot to know out there. Build up your experience. To find a good girl, you first need to learn how to choose. Game on!
 
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