Quagmire911
Master Don Juan
No that is a rear delt row, this is a barbell row:
http://www.exrx.net/WeightExercises/BackGeneral/BBBentOverRow.html
http://www.exrx.net/WeightExercises/BackGeneral/BBBentOverRow.html
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
RESPONSES IN BOLDJohnnyIrish said:Thanks effort. I have a few minor questions:
1) Is the Back Extension an acceptable substitute for Glute Ham Raises or Hyperextensions?
DO THIS INSTEAD
http://www.exrx.net/WeightExercises/GluteusMaximus/BBStrBackStiffLegDeadlift.html
2) When testing max bench, does it matter if one uses dumbells or a barbells?
USE A BARBELL
3) Being not familiar (I.E. learning) the Barbell Row I looked it up and found two exercises:
bent over barbell rows
or
Upright barbell rows
Does it matter which one we use?
USE THE FIRST ONE
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
JohnnyIrish said:I still have some weeks got go but I'm curious, when one is done the 12 week program do you simply start back at week 1?
^^^EFFORT said:don't think we've had anyone that went this route make it the 12 weeks. If more people were making it through i'd start a new thread on what to do next. For now though just make it the 12 weeks and shoot me a pm once the 12 weeks is up and i'll get you setup.
I may be the first? HA!Quagmire911 said:^^^
You may be the first! Many have tried and failed...
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Originally Posted by Mark Rippetoe
We've had young guys put 350 on their deadlift, 150 on their bench, and 75 on their press. But most will not do the program, so it doesn't happen often.
Some kid:
What do you mean by this? I'd give my left nut to train at your gym.
Originally Posted by Mark Rippetoe
Bless you, my son. But it is a rare occasion when a trainee of the right age, height, and motivation shows up at my gym here in Wichita Falls. You probably haven't processed this yet, but the vast majority of the human race consists of lazy slobs that will not work to complete a task that involves something physically or intellectually hard. You guys are the tiny minority, and I'm proud to be associated with you.
Some kid:
So by not do the program you're talking about one of many things:
1. Quitting after a week or two.
2. Training only very sporadically.
3. Trying to substitute exercises, e.g. pansy half-squats on a Smith.
4. Trying to add exercises other than assistance work.
5. Not sleeping enough.
6. Not eating enough.
7. Not drinking enough milk.
8. Not working hard, saying one's prayers and taking one's vitamins?
Originally Posted by Mark Rippetoe
Exactimundo.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Pretty solid routine for beginners. Would be a great start.The Bat said:What do you guys think of recommending Iron Addict's Simple Power Based Routine to beginners here alongside Rippetoe's routines?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.