Quagmire911
Master Don Juan
No that is a rear delt row, this is a barbell row:
http://www.exrx.net/WeightExercises/BackGeneral/BBBentOverRow.html
http://www.exrx.net/WeightExercises/BackGeneral/BBBentOverRow.html
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
RESPONSES IN BOLDJohnnyIrish said:Thanks effort. I have a few minor questions:
1) Is the Back Extension an acceptable substitute for Glute Ham Raises or Hyperextensions?
DO THIS INSTEAD
http://www.exrx.net/WeightExercises/GluteusMaximus/BBStrBackStiffLegDeadlift.html
2) When testing max bench, does it matter if one uses dumbells or a barbells?
USE A BARBELL
3) Being not familiar (I.E. learning) the Barbell Row I looked it up and found two exercises:
bent over barbell rows
or
Upright barbell rows
Does it matter which one we use?
USE THE FIRST ONE
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
JohnnyIrish said:I still have some weeks got go but I'm curious, when one is done the 12 week program do you simply start back at week 1?
^^^EFFORT said:don't think we've had anyone that went this route make it the 12 weeks. If more people were making it through i'd start a new thread on what to do next. For now though just make it the 12 weeks and shoot me a pm once the 12 weeks is up and i'll get you setup.
I may be the first? HA!Quagmire911 said:^^^
You may be the first! Many have tried and failed...
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Originally Posted by Mark Rippetoe
We've had young guys put 350 on their deadlift, 150 on their bench, and 75 on their press. But most will not do the program, so it doesn't happen often.
Some kid:
What do you mean by this? I'd give my left nut to train at your gym.
Originally Posted by Mark Rippetoe
Bless you, my son. But it is a rare occasion when a trainee of the right age, height, and motivation shows up at my gym here in Wichita Falls. You probably haven't processed this yet, but the vast majority of the human race consists of lazy slobs that will not work to complete a task that involves something physically or intellectually hard. You guys are the tiny minority, and I'm proud to be associated with you.
Some kid:
So by not do the program you're talking about one of many things:
1. Quitting after a week or two.
2. Training only very sporadically.
3. Trying to substitute exercises, e.g. pansy half-squats on a Smith.
4. Trying to add exercises other than assistance work.
5. Not sleeping enough.
6. Not eating enough.
7. Not drinking enough milk.
8. Not working hard, saying one's prayers and taking one's vitamins?
Originally Posted by Mark Rippetoe
Exactimundo.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Pretty solid routine for beginners. Would be a great start.The Bat said:What do you guys think of recommending Iron Addict's Simple Power Based Routine to beginners here alongside Rippetoe's routines?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.