As many already know this girl said she wanted to bond with me. I'm cool with this it's just that theres nothing to do in my city. Idk what to do. Where should we hang out at. Can you list some ideas for us to do. (Note that this girl isn't my gf......yet)
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Where should we hang out
- Thread starter rkc09
- Start date
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
mastacheef
Don Juan
what city do you live in???
redspicyflag
Master Don Juan
her casa
tu casa
minigolf
pool hall
tu casa
minigolf
pool hall
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
mastacheef
Don Juan
movies is a good 2nd date, you can't really bond in a movie on the first date 
bowling is good, pool hall and mini golf as spicy stated, the park, etc.
bowling is good, pool hall and mini golf as spicy stated, the park, etc.mastacheef
Don Juan
doesn't mean you can't have a date but basically same thing, if you want to bond do something where you can enjoy what your doing while at the same time talking with her, can't talk in movies ya know? unless you like to be that obnoxious d0uche bag aha
but basically same thing, if you want to bond do something where you can enjoy what your doing while at the same time talking with her, can't talk in movies ya know? unless you like to be that obnoxious d0uche bag aha"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
who's got cooler parents that wouldn't mind yall being alone? figure that out and you know who's house to go to. personally i always try to go to the girl's house cuz my mom's the type that would bust in on something with koolaid and rice krispy squares. lol
redspicyflag
Master Don Juan
Tell her you got something so awesome she needs to see it
lol
lol
oh yea that could be a problem cuz yall aren't "together" yet huh? well then i'd vote against the hanging out at each other's houses just yet. go do something fun. things that have already been listed. i'm sure yall have ice skating in ohio. mini golf, they have that everywhere. find something like that. what i've noticed, especially in hs, is that girls want FUN out of a relationship more than anything. take her somewhere that will be fun.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
yea but theres seriously nothing to do here. The only things I can think of is
Movies
Mall (IDK if this is a good choice)
Bowling (But it's crazy there)
HS sports Games (But their away this week)
Youth Activity at our church
Mansfield is a small city.....
Movies
Mall (IDK if this is a good choice)
Bowling (But it's crazy there)
HS sports Games (But their away this week)
Youth Activity at our church
Mansfield is a small city.....
redspicyflag
Master Don Juan
mall
take her into a store
then mess with her
take her into a store
then mess with her
redspicyflag
Master Don Juan
I totally am
as long as you keep it fun
Use your creative mind
You really should watch deangelo's ****y comedy
as long as you keep it fun
Use your creative mind
You really should watch deangelo's ****y comedy
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.