You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
What about the 'So why did you add me?' question?Jariel said:I usually check their profile to see if they're single. Sometimes I'll just add them with no introduction. If they add me, over the next week I might like a photo or two of theirs, comment on a few status updates or alike and see how they respond. If they like my pics or seem receptive to my comments, I'll drop them a mail, along the lines of:
"Hey there. We've not had chance to speak yet so I thought I'd drop you a mail to say hi.
So how are you and how's your weekend been?"
We swap a few mails of basic chit chat, getting to know a bit about each other etc, swap numbers and escalate from there.
A lot of the time, I'll get a response or two to my mail, but then won't hear anything again. Other times they seem really keen to get to know me. Sometimes they're even quite obsessive and seem to think I'm this perfect guy.
I've tried being ****y and funny or forward, but it rarely works. I find taking it slowly and building rapport works much better for me. A lot of guys comment on their pics with "you're fit" and "I would bang u" etc so I set myself apart this way. I think it's also important they feel comfortable with you.
I confess, I do a lot of cutting and pasting of emails to save time.![]()
mikeyb said:Don't have 5 yet but here's my 3:
3. Online dating (match.com)
2. Taking same class (met through a friend)
1. Workshop (cold approach after workshop ended)
Agree with Jariel, bars & clubs don't do it for me either. If you're persistent and have a little game, online is a sure thing but you have to be willing to put up with scores of low quality women, flakes, and AWs.
I rarely get asked to be honest, though if someone does ask I just tell them it was a "random add" or something like "I was checking your profile and thought I'd like to get to know you". Nothing witty or clever, just to the point.Ease said:What about the 'So why did you add me?' question?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That's cool. I was convinced it was impossible to get anywhere from random adds but you have opened my eyes. A true facebook pioneer. Props to you.Jariel said:I rarely get asked to be honest, though if someone does ask I just tell them it was a "random add" or something like "I was checking your profile and thought I'd like to get to know you". Nothing witty or clever, just to the point.
I have also used the "I'm sure I know you from somewhere" excuse and I've had random girls use the same line when adding me.
Great line! Mind if I borrow it?DJ Logic said:4. Wine-tasting (should i have been surprised that she didn't swallow?)
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Well I sure get my share of rejections, but it's quite easy to play the numbers game on Facebook.Ease said:That's cool. I was convinced it was impossible to get anywhere from random adds but you have opened my eyes. A true facebook pioneer. Props to you.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Whoa, seriously? Mind giving some details?Starbucks
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Hmm, I'll guess the real ones: 2,4,7,9,10?mustfirstregister said:1. Sauna
2. Traveled to country
3. Park
4. Landlady
5. Skating
6. Salon
7. Cousin's wife sister
8. Neighbor
9. Hooker
10. Insurance broker
5 are real and 5 are fake. Can you guess?
Whaaat? What kind of dance classes are these?!loveshogun said:Most recent to least recent
1) Dance class
2) Dance class
3) Dance class
4) Bar
5) Dance class
You'll notice a pattern here, with me.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.