"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Where did you meet the last five girls you slept with?
- Thread starter Kenny Powers
- Start date
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
What about the 'So why did you add me?' question?Jariel said:I usually check their profile to see if they're single. Sometimes I'll just add them with no introduction. If they add me, over the next week I might like a photo or two of theirs, comment on a few status updates or alike and see how they respond. If they like my pics or seem receptive to my comments, I'll drop them a mail, along the lines of:
"Hey there. We've not had chance to speak yet so I thought I'd drop you a mail to say hi.
So how are you and how's your weekend been?"
We swap a few mails of basic chit chat, getting to know a bit about each other etc, swap numbers and escalate from there.
A lot of the time, I'll get a response or two to my mail, but then won't hear anything again. Other times they seem really keen to get to know me. Sometimes they're even quite obsessive and seem to think I'm this perfect guy.
I've tried being ****y and funny or forward, but it rarely works. I find taking it slowly and building rapport works much better for me. A lot of guys comment on their pics with "you're fit" and "I would bang u" etc so I set myself apart this way. I think it's also important they feel comfortable with you.
I confess, I do a lot of cutting and pasting of emails to save time.
mikeyb said:
wth?
match.com at age 22? you've got to be kidding me. Assuming that the #3 means the first girl that would probably mean you were 21 or younger when you used match.com or worse case scenario it was the last girl you slept with in which you were 22.
This sounds like some bs. The women that use match are generally older and established in their lives to afford a pay for dating service. So as a 20-22 year old you're pulling women in their late 20's early 30's from online dating?
I rarely get asked to be honest, though if someone does ask I just tell them it was a "random add" or something like "I was checking your profile and thought I'd like to get to know you". Nothing witty or clever, just to the point.Ease said:
I have also used the "I'm sure I know you from somewhere" excuse and I've had random girls use the same line when adding me.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Furyguy
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2. "Meet and greet" type thing for students in a certain program
3. Work
4. Work
5. Friend's birthday party.
1, 3, and 4 I was forced to interact with obviously. 2 we had common ground to begin the conversation, 5 I was so hammered I have no idea wtf happened except that (I'm told) I was being really funny and she really liked me. Actually would never have met 5 if I hadn't slept with 3. Random.
None of the work ladies ever caused any drama or problems for me, either.
OH, and I also took 3 years of various dance classes and never got a single thing! I ****ing hated dancing and still do to this day, so **** it, not worth the effort.
Well I sure get my share of rejections, but it's quite easy to play the numbers game on Facebook.Ease said:
I used to do all my pick ups at uni, but as I'm not there any more and my friends aren't into going out so much these days, it has been a very good resource for me during the last year. The biggest difference to a face to face pick up really is that I have to be more patient and allow for a bit of caution on their part. Most girls I meet from there are extremely nervous on the first date.
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2. Traveled to country
3. Park
4. Landlady
5. Skating
6. Salon
7. Cousin's wife sister
8. Neighbor
9. Hooker
10. Insurance broker
5 are real and 5 are fake. Can you guess?
Starbucks
Starbucks
Starbucks
Special Olympics - Before you get ready with a stupid joke. She volunteered for her sorority. She was basically on drool patrol. She took care of the athletes at lunch time who needed assistance. Volunteering is an excellent way to pick up hot chicks. With nothing but slow people around us I knew I came across as suave and worldly.
Remember, if you neg me you are negging every athlete who has ever competed. For let me win, but if I cannot win let me be brave in the attempt!!
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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Hmm, I'll guess the real ones: 2,4,7,9,10?mustfirstregister said:
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4) Work (****ed her a year after we stopped working together)
3) Online (we exchanged numbers 6 months before I ****ed her)
2) School (she randomly approached me, dated her for a bit)
1) Through a Buddy
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Whaaat? What kind of dance classes are these?!loveshogun said:
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.