DJ_in_making
Master Don Juan
I hear your true repressed feelings come out when you're drunk? What does it mean if someone is an ass to you when they're sober but start getting all nice to you once they're drunk..
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
:yes:THE_ADDMAN said:you just answered your own question.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
DJ_in_making said:I hear your true repressed feelings come out when you're drunk? What does it mean if someone is an ass to you when they're sober but start getting all nice to you once they're drunk..
Of course, phsycologists say otherwise.mahon83050 said:This is why I believe Mel Gibson truly is an ANTI-SEMITE!!! His true feelings came out.....
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Same here. I have done and said things when Im drunk that I would NEVER do sober. Things that dont even come into my mind when I am sober. You just make up random stuff and blurt it out. I once tried to use a tennis ball as my license to get into a club, honestly beleiveing it was my license, lol. Is that my sober thoughts? Or drink driving numerous times, something that I am 100% against! And thats just the tip of the iceburg! Alcohol changes people, at least when they drink excessive amounts, as I am sure anyone who has done this on 50+ occassions could attest too.TyTe`EyEs said:Truth serum my ass.
I'm not the same person when I'm drunk.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Dude, I just about got sent home from work due to excessive laughter. That is the greatest thing I've ever heard.CLOONEY said:I once tried to use a tennis ball as my license to get into a club, honestly beleiveing it was my license, lol.
lol, yeah my friends and the bouncers found it pretty funny also! Unfortunately, thats one of the least embarassing and dangerous things Ive done in my drunken years!TyTe`EyEs said:Dude, I just about got sent home from work due to excessive laughter. That is the greatest thing I've ever heard.
When I black out from alcohol, I usually just curse people out and try to start fights.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.