DJ_in_making
Master Don Juan
I hear your true repressed feelings come out when you're drunk? What does it mean if someone is an ass to you when they're sober but start getting all nice to you once they're drunk..
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
:yes:THE_ADDMAN said:you just answered your own question.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
DJ_in_making said:I hear your true repressed feelings come out when you're drunk? What does it mean if someone is an ass to you when they're sober but start getting all nice to you once they're drunk..
Of course, phsycologists say otherwise.mahon83050 said:This is why I believe Mel Gibson truly is an ANTI-SEMITE!!! His true feelings came out.....
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Same here. I have done and said things when Im drunk that I would NEVER do sober. Things that dont even come into my mind when I am sober. You just make up random stuff and blurt it out. I once tried to use a tennis ball as my license to get into a club, honestly beleiveing it was my license, lol. Is that my sober thoughts? Or drink driving numerous times, something that I am 100% against! And thats just the tip of the iceburg! Alcohol changes people, at least when they drink excessive amounts, as I am sure anyone who has done this on 50+ occassions could attest too.TyTe`EyEs said:Truth serum my ass.
I'm not the same person when I'm drunk.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Dude, I just about got sent home from work due to excessive laughter. That is the greatest thing I've ever heard.CLOONEY said:I once tried to use a tennis ball as my license to get into a club, honestly beleiveing it was my license, lol.
lol, yeah my friends and the bouncers found it pretty funny also! Unfortunately, thats one of the least embarassing and dangerous things Ive done in my drunken years!TyTe`EyEs said:Dude, I just about got sent home from work due to excessive laughter. That is the greatest thing I've ever heard.
When I black out from alcohol, I usually just curse people out and try to start fights.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.