DJ_in_making
Master Don Juan
I hear your true repressed feelings come out when you're drunk? What does it mean if someone is an ass to you when they're sober but start getting all nice to you once they're drunk..
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
:yes:THE_ADDMAN said:you just answered your own question.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
DJ_in_making said:I hear your true repressed feelings come out when you're drunk? What does it mean if someone is an ass to you when they're sober but start getting all nice to you once they're drunk..
Of course, phsycologists say otherwise.mahon83050 said:This is why I believe Mel Gibson truly is an ANTI-SEMITE!!! His true feelings came out.....
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Same here. I have done and said things when Im drunk that I would NEVER do sober. Things that dont even come into my mind when I am sober. You just make up random stuff and blurt it out. I once tried to use a tennis ball as my license to get into a club, honestly beleiveing it was my license, lol. Is that my sober thoughts? Or drink driving numerous times, something that I am 100% against! And thats just the tip of the iceburg! Alcohol changes people, at least when they drink excessive amounts, as I am sure anyone who has done this on 50+ occassions could attest too.TyTe`EyEs said:Truth serum my ass.
I'm not the same person when I'm drunk.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Dude, I just about got sent home from work due to excessive laughter. That is the greatest thing I've ever heard.CLOONEY said:I once tried to use a tennis ball as my license to get into a club, honestly beleiveing it was my license, lol.
lol, yeah my friends and the bouncers found it pretty funny also! Unfortunately, thats one of the least embarassing and dangerous things Ive done in my drunken years!TyTe`EyEs said:Dude, I just about got sent home from work due to excessive laughter. That is the greatest thing I've ever heard.
When I black out from alcohol, I usually just curse people out and try to start fights.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.