Ok when your in a relationship and she has male friends.. tell her get rid of them. Or you dont want her. She will have this automatic response saying "oh we dont do anything hes just a friend" dont believe that ****. Those guys are just trying to **** your girlfriend. If she cant respect your decision. Get rid of her! If you let her have male friends. You might let her male friends screw her too. See the picture? If you let her do that your a wimp!
OP,
I say this respectfully, but your post and attitude is extremely jealous, possessive, controlling, and of the scarcity mindset. So you get to pick and choose her friends now, right? You don't own her. Part of your "agreement" when dating or in a LTR is to give her the benefit of the doubt until you have solid reasons to do otherwise. If you don't like it, stay single and you'll have nothing to worry about.
Being of the jealous, possessive, controlling, and scarcity mindset are female or beta male (or worse) traits. Always thinking someone is going to
steal her away.
The sign of a true confident, strong, DJ is to allow her to have her own friends. Encourage her. If she f*ucks up, THEN you drop the hammer. This is your mindset because as a DJ you have others waiting in the wings and you're an in-demand, strong, confident guy. And DJs do not display weak minded behavior, get it?
My ex had a couple guy friends. One was a 55 year old attorney we both knew from our gym. As a guy, he was probably a HB3, but very smart and a nice guy. I actually liked talking to him. I felt ZERO threats from him. I actually could care less if she hung out with him. He was like her girlfriend but with XY chromosomes. If hypothetically at some point, she chose the HB3 beta guy who was 25 years older than me, great, she did me a favor. I had/have female friends I would keep in touch with too. Some I've known for 25 years. Big F'ing deal.
She was also friends with her ex. He also still worked out at our gym. Maybe he was a man version of a HB5. Very short, hairy but funny as hell. I liked talking to him too. I
disagree with everyone who says
NEVER LET HER BE FRIENDS WITH HER EX!!! Look, ex's are ex's for a reason. Unless the woman is low quality, which is YOUR fault for dating or LTR'ing her then, you're the one who's with her and f*ucking her, right? Anything less is just a jealous, scarcity mindset, like a female or man who thinks his woman will jump because
he's not good enough or man enough to keep her. Personally, I just don't get romantically involved with women I cannot trust or have too many flags--problem solved. I'll f*uck them, but not "date" them.
OP, you need to re-calibrate and focus on your IDGAF and Abundance Mindset because your DJ game is slipping and self-limiting beliefs are taking over.
Good luck to you.
~Dash~