"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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when you have date setup how do you guys confirm?

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Do you just go there expect her to be there or do you like send reminder text say on way or ill be there later how do you do it usually j/w??
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Dont send a reminder text. Just show up. You will find often times that she will send YOU a confirmation text.

Woman with high interest...mark and circle the day when they have set up a date with a man they are attracted to. If she "forgets".....she was not attracted.
 
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how bout when your telling them all they respond with is oh ok and im like ok 7pm so and so and they wont reply?
 

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thelonewolflegend said:
how bout when your telling them all they respond with is oh ok and im like ok 7pm so and so and they wont reply?
Thats not setting up a date....

Setting up a date is making concrete plans. A day, a time, a place, and a confirmation by both people. If this is the girl you are asking about.....she does not sound interested and I would make other plans.
 
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well I just told them other 2 get together the days they said that's cool I just didn't tell them where and when im gonna tell them that day I think that's better idea really?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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if they dont reply to your set up then that is not a date set.
 

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Always say the place, day, and time, and confirm. You gotta lead, man. Even if you never get there an decide to do something else.

Confirm 2-3 hrs ahead by saying "I'll be 15 mins late/early instead of 00:00". If you hear nothing and the time is getting close, kiss it goodbye, she's a flaker. Make other plans or go to bed.
 

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I call her 25 mins before to see what time she is heading to the location. I dont leave my house until I hear her voice say she is on her way.
 

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thelonewolflegend said:
Do you just go there expect her to be there or do you like send reminder text say on way or ill be there later how do you do it usually j/w??

how bout when your telling them all they respond with is oh ok and im like ok 7pm so and so and they wont reply?

well I just told them other 2 get together the days they said that's cool I just didn't tell them where and when im gonna tell them that day I think that's better idea really?
Christ, man. Use punctuation. I had to read everything you said like three times....
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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