"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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When you are the second choice

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Yep, second choice is tied for last place. Been there. Guys think women are good at spinning plates, but they kind of suck at it.

However, women have been known to level down to get some D when their first choice isn't working out.
Two first choices can exist at the same time, and for many reasons one of the two becomes number one (such as proximity, attendance, material advantages, etc.).

But, there can be.

The problem is that when you commit to women, number one becomes number two, and number two becomes number one.

At least in their minds.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Two first choices can exist at the same time, and for many reasons one of the two becomes number one (such as proximity, attendance, material advantages, etc.).

But, there can be.

The problem is that when you commit to women, number one becomes number two, and number two becomes number one.

At least in their minds.
Good point

Although most AVERAGE men( ironically enough named " the bottom 80%") ARE number one UNTILL a top 20 percenter joins the club.

Now, the top 20 dude will completely 180 this game and now SHE is a "bottom 80-e"r.

That's why fellas, you gotta fecking level up untill you drop. Seriously. Your life will be completely different once you eter the top 20%.

Also wanna add that even IF you are her number one,you still have to deal with her bs...a woman who knows she is NOT your number one will at up. So much for settling and "wanting peace".
 

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Have you ever been some women's second/third choices? (So not the first one)

It would be discuss what you learned from this.
Second/third choice in what context?
If it's second/third choice when it comes to her competition, she'll take whoever is currently giving her emotional fluctuation.
For second/third choice when it comes to being her companion, you can fvck her until she starts behaving badly or starts to wander off.

First choice is always better for each situation, but there's nothing wrong with a good fvck 'n' toss. Just keep your emotions out of it and your options open.
 

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How does a man think he has something with a woman if he's her 2nd choice? I mean, within a few weeks, he notices that she seems a lot busier and unavailable, and presumes correctly that she's not truly available. I have always bailed out when I noticed this.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Every woman has multiple choices at any given moment. Even the hb3.
 

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And unless you're gunned down by Hezbollah operatives who've mistaken you for director of The Mossad, immediately after you've bedded her, she won't be YOUR last either
So he bedded then beheaded?
 
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