"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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When you are the second choice

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Yep, second choice is tied for last place. Been there. Guys think women are good at spinning plates, but they kind of suck at it.

However, women have been known to level down to get some D when their first choice isn't working out.
Two first choices can exist at the same time, and for many reasons one of the two becomes number one (such as proximity, attendance, material advantages, etc.).

But, there can be.

The problem is that when you commit to women, number one becomes number two, and number two becomes number one.

At least in their minds.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Two first choices can exist at the same time, and for many reasons one of the two becomes number one (such as proximity, attendance, material advantages, etc.).

But, there can be.

The problem is that when you commit to women, number one becomes number two, and number two becomes number one.

At least in their minds.
Good point

Although most AVERAGE men( ironically enough named " the bottom 80%") ARE number one UNTILL a top 20 percenter joins the club.

Now, the top 20 dude will completely 180 this game and now SHE is a "bottom 80-e"r.

That's why fellas, you gotta fecking level up untill you drop. Seriously. Your life will be completely different once you eter the top 20%.

Also wanna add that even IF you are her number one,you still have to deal with her bs...a woman who knows she is NOT your number one will at up. So much for settling and "wanting peace".
 

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Have you ever been some women's second/third choices? (So not the first one)

It would be discuss what you learned from this.
Second/third choice in what context?
If it's second/third choice when it comes to her competition, she'll take whoever is currently giving her emotional fluctuation.
For second/third choice when it comes to being her companion, you can fvck her until she starts behaving badly or starts to wander off.

First choice is always better for each situation, but there's nothing wrong with a good fvck 'n' toss. Just keep your emotions out of it and your options open.
 

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How does a man think he has something with a woman if he's her 2nd choice? I mean, within a few weeks, he notices that she seems a lot busier and unavailable, and presumes correctly that she's not truly available. I have always bailed out when I noticed this.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Every woman has multiple choices at any given moment. Even the hb3.
 

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And unless you're gunned down by Hezbollah operatives who've mistaken you for director of The Mossad, immediately after you've bedded her, she won't be YOUR last either
So he bedded then beheaded?
 
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