"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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When you are the second choice

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Yep, second choice is tied for last place. Been there. Guys think women are good at spinning plates, but they kind of suck at it.

However, women have been known to level down to get some D when their first choice isn't working out.
Two first choices can exist at the same time, and for many reasons one of the two becomes number one (such as proximity, attendance, material advantages, etc.).

But, there can be.

The problem is that when you commit to women, number one becomes number two, and number two becomes number one.

At least in their minds.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Two first choices can exist at the same time, and for many reasons one of the two becomes number one (such as proximity, attendance, material advantages, etc.).

But, there can be.

The problem is that when you commit to women, number one becomes number two, and number two becomes number one.

At least in their minds.
Good point

Although most AVERAGE men( ironically enough named " the bottom 80%") ARE number one UNTILL a top 20 percenter joins the club.

Now, the top 20 dude will completely 180 this game and now SHE is a "bottom 80-e"r.

That's why fellas, you gotta fecking level up untill you drop. Seriously. Your life will be completely different once you eter the top 20%.

Also wanna add that even IF you are her number one,you still have to deal with her bs...a woman who knows she is NOT your number one will at up. So much for settling and "wanting peace".
 

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Have you ever been some women's second/third choices? (So not the first one)

It would be discuss what you learned from this.
Second/third choice in what context?
If it's second/third choice when it comes to her competition, she'll take whoever is currently giving her emotional fluctuation.
For second/third choice when it comes to being her companion, you can fvck her until she starts behaving badly or starts to wander off.

First choice is always better for each situation, but there's nothing wrong with a good fvck 'n' toss. Just keep your emotions out of it and your options open.
 

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How does a man think he has something with a woman if he's her 2nd choice? I mean, within a few weeks, he notices that she seems a lot busier and unavailable, and presumes correctly that she's not truly available. I have always bailed out when I noticed this.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Every woman has multiple choices at any given moment. Even the hb3.
 

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And unless you're gunned down by Hezbollah operatives who've mistaken you for director of The Mossad, immediately after you've bedded her, she won't be YOUR last either
So he bedded then beheaded?
 
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