"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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When was this forum made?

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The farthest back I've seen posts from here is from early 2001. I'm just a tad bit curious :)
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Yeah, but there was a server crash or something and they lost the posts from before then.........

I'm curious too :D
 

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And how come it turned out as it did? The front page wasn't all special, but it attracted a lot of really amazing guys like Anti-Dump and so on, and made the word "DJ" mean something more than "PUA"... what I'm wondering is was it by invite, did Allen already know some of these guys, or was it just chance.. or what?
 

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ah the ode to the old webpage.

comic_relief
 

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I remember signing up for the DJ tips via e-mail back in 2000. Got cut off because I couldn't think of anything to contribute within 6 months!
 

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Jeez...Desdinova thanks for posting the pic up. My god. Didn't realize how much it changed. Used to spend hours in 2001 reading hundreds of articles (and it did me so much good haha) until my father checked the history and saw i was on this site. Followed by a 1 hour lecture on how this is not the way to act and trying to be a DJ is wrong....*sigh*...good times
 

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bit off topic guys, but would you say this forum has gone downhill from the beginning, i know i wasnt around then but reading posts from back then there was a real determination to help each other, now it seems like everyones trying to prove they're the best by belittling other members and their even seems to be more negative posts from when i joined a little less than a year ago

what do you guys think?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Latinoman said:
What is Allen's ID?
SoSuave.com

Funny tidbit: Until he deleted it, he actually had a second Admin account using his real name. Didn't have any posts though.
 

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playa99 said:
bit off topic guys, but would you say this forum has gone downhill from the beginning, i know i wasnt around then but reading posts from back then there was a real determination to help each other, now it seems like everyones trying to prove they're the best by belittling other members and their even seems to be more negative posts from when i joined a little less than a year ago

what do you guys think?

Pheh, it's been said often enough; I think this forum's just passed through the stage of maturity where people don't all know each other anymore, and you get the good stuff watered down a bit.

It's still a cool forum. For its size, it's matured well I'd say.
 

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Desdinova said:
The front page looked different than it does now. From what I can recall, it was black with mostly text.

http://web.archive.org/web/20000511071149/http://www.sosuave.com/
Hey I actually remember that black front page. I joined in May 2003, do you know when it was changed?

playa99 said:
bit off topic guys, but would you say this forum has gone downhill from the beginning, i know i wasnt around then but reading posts from back then there was a real determination to help each other, now it seems like everyones trying to prove they're the best by belittling other members and their even seems to be more negative posts from when i joined a little less than a year ago
I'm with Gubby, the site has grown & matured. With everything else in life, you lose aspects when you grow, there are advantages and disadvantages. The biggest advantage is more people are getting help and utilizing the knowledge contained herein. The downside is the haters, jealousy etc...
 

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MacAvoy said:
Hey I actually remember that black front page. I joined in May 2003, do you know when it was changed?
I think it changed when we got our current version of vBulletin. Don't quote me on that though, I rarely visit the main page.

Remember that chick in the upper left-hand corner that everyone said wasn't hot enough? It was really irritating seeing posts about that every goddam week.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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:) interesting stuff ^^

Hey I noticed people were posting on the "unusual techniques in seduction" forum nowadays.. but it's totally hidden as far as I can see, what gives?
 

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Gubby said:
LOL speaking of SS's murky past, I was digging and found mysteriously some posts were in a SHADOW FORUM which no longer exists!! :eek:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/forumdisplay.php?f=22

"Unusual techniques in seduction"!
So what?

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/forumdisplay.php?f=23

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/forumdisplay.php?f=18

Don't forget ones that don't have links anymore: The "23 and Up" Mature Man forum, the "jokes and humor" forum, and the "bars and clubs" forum.
 

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Haha interesting. I remember the old front page and bible. As well as the old forums they look terrible now :p lol the 'Don Juan Centre'.

Forums and bible are better than the main page in my opinion, although that can be good too. I'm well past the need to read much now though.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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