That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I think he's looking for a place to start. Men are naturally intimidated by a woman's looks, so a 5 is less intimidating than an 8. If he wants to start at 5s and work his way up, then it's certainly better than sitting on sosuave and making up reasons why he can't get womenNo sense in hitting on 8s if you can't get them, but no point in practicing on 5s if you can easily get 7s
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
True But everyone starts the game somewhere different, perhaps OP is a badass and can already get 8's once he tries, perhaps OP has a long road ahead of him and needs to start with women who weigh at least 200.I think he's looking for a place to start. Men are naturally intimidated by a woman's looks, so a 5 is less intimidating than an 8. If he wants to start at 5s and work his way up, then it's certainly better than sitting on sosuave and making up reasons why he can't get women![]()
I agree with this. Most 9s/10s struggle with deeper insecurity issues stemming from their need for validation, which predominantly defines them.The HB9's I dated had mental issues. HB9's that are mentally healthy seem very rare or maybe I'm not good enough to get them!
IMO, my weakest part right now is Finance, which I'm working on now and giving myself a 5-year plan for that.What's your current SMV in the big three?
In other words, what do you bring to the table? What needs your attention?
-Looks
-Personality
-Finance
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
sounds like you're ready to move up to 7'sThanks for the insight guys, appreciate it. Actually, 5s and 6s are actually not that difficult to game, tbh.
The problem with them is that I've no motivation to really talk to them (due to their looks lol)
No there aren't.There are 10s out there that think they are 5s
there are but probably to a much lesser extent than thatNo there aren't.
That's a unicorn.there are but probably to a much lesser extent than that
a legit 10 who legit thinks she's a 5 would either be surrounded by supermodels and think she's average or someone with crippling mental/self esteem issues making them extremely easy to bang but impossible to deal with personality-wise
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.