You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I think he's looking for a place to start. Men are naturally intimidated by a woman's looks, so a 5 is less intimidating than an 8. If he wants to start at 5s and work his way up, then it's certainly better than sitting on sosuave and making up reasons why he can't get womenNo sense in hitting on 8s if you can't get them, but no point in practicing on 5s if you can easily get 7s
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
True But everyone starts the game somewhere different, perhaps OP is a badass and can already get 8's once he tries, perhaps OP has a long road ahead of him and needs to start with women who weigh at least 200.I think he's looking for a place to start. Men are naturally intimidated by a woman's looks, so a 5 is less intimidating than an 8. If he wants to start at 5s and work his way up, then it's certainly better than sitting on sosuave and making up reasons why he can't get women![]()
I agree with this. Most 9s/10s struggle with deeper insecurity issues stemming from their need for validation, which predominantly defines them.The HB9's I dated had mental issues. HB9's that are mentally healthy seem very rare or maybe I'm not good enough to get them!
IMO, my weakest part right now is Finance, which I'm working on now and giving myself a 5-year plan for that.What's your current SMV in the big three?
In other words, what do you bring to the table? What needs your attention?
-Looks
-Personality
-Finance
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
sounds like you're ready to move up to 7'sThanks for the insight guys, appreciate it. Actually, 5s and 6s are actually not that difficult to game, tbh.
The problem with them is that I've no motivation to really talk to them (due to their looks lol)
No there aren't.There are 10s out there that think they are 5s
there are but probably to a much lesser extent than thatNo there aren't.
That's a unicorn.there are but probably to a much lesser extent than that
a legit 10 who legit thinks she's a 5 would either be surrounded by supermodels and think she's average or someone with crippling mental/self esteem issues making them extremely easy to bang but impossible to deal with personality-wise
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.