You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I think he's looking for a place to start. Men are naturally intimidated by a woman's looks, so a 5 is less intimidating than an 8. If he wants to start at 5s and work his way up, then it's certainly better than sitting on sosuave and making up reasons why he can't get womenNo sense in hitting on 8s if you can't get them, but no point in practicing on 5s if you can easily get 7s
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
True But everyone starts the game somewhere different, perhaps OP is a badass and can already get 8's once he tries, perhaps OP has a long road ahead of him and needs to start with women who weigh at least 200.I think he's looking for a place to start. Men are naturally intimidated by a woman's looks, so a 5 is less intimidating than an 8. If he wants to start at 5s and work his way up, then it's certainly better than sitting on sosuave and making up reasons why he can't get women![]()
I agree with this. Most 9s/10s struggle with deeper insecurity issues stemming from their need for validation, which predominantly defines them.The HB9's I dated had mental issues. HB9's that are mentally healthy seem very rare or maybe I'm not good enough to get them!
IMO, my weakest part right now is Finance, which I'm working on now and giving myself a 5-year plan for that.What's your current SMV in the big three?
In other words, what do you bring to the table? What needs your attention?
-Looks
-Personality
-Finance
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
sounds like you're ready to move up to 7'sThanks for the insight guys, appreciate it. Actually, 5s and 6s are actually not that difficult to game, tbh.
The problem with them is that I've no motivation to really talk to them (due to their looks lol)
No there aren't.There are 10s out there that think they are 5s
there are but probably to a much lesser extent than thatNo there aren't.
That's a unicorn.there are but probably to a much lesser extent than that
a legit 10 who legit thinks she's a 5 would either be surrounded by supermodels and think she's average or someone with crippling mental/self esteem issues making them extremely easy to bang but impossible to deal with personality-wise
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.