You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I think he's looking for a place to start. Men are naturally intimidated by a woman's looks, so a 5 is less intimidating than an 8. If he wants to start at 5s and work his way up, then it's certainly better than sitting on sosuave and making up reasons why he can't get womenNo sense in hitting on 8s if you can't get them, but no point in practicing on 5s if you can easily get 7s
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
True But everyone starts the game somewhere different, perhaps OP is a badass and can already get 8's once he tries, perhaps OP has a long road ahead of him and needs to start with women who weigh at least 200.I think he's looking for a place to start. Men are naturally intimidated by a woman's looks, so a 5 is less intimidating than an 8. If he wants to start at 5s and work his way up, then it's certainly better than sitting on sosuave and making up reasons why he can't get women![]()
I agree with this. Most 9s/10s struggle with deeper insecurity issues stemming from their need for validation, which predominantly defines them.The HB9's I dated had mental issues. HB9's that are mentally healthy seem very rare or maybe I'm not good enough to get them!
IMO, my weakest part right now is Finance, which I'm working on now and giving myself a 5-year plan for that.What's your current SMV in the big three?
In other words, what do you bring to the table? What needs your attention?
-Looks
-Personality
-Finance
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
sounds like you're ready to move up to 7'sThanks for the insight guys, appreciate it. Actually, 5s and 6s are actually not that difficult to game, tbh.
The problem with them is that I've no motivation to really talk to them (due to their looks lol)
No there aren't.There are 10s out there that think they are 5s
there are but probably to a much lesser extent than thatNo there aren't.
That's a unicorn.there are but probably to a much lesser extent than that
a legit 10 who legit thinks she's a 5 would either be surrounded by supermodels and think she's average or someone with crippling mental/self esteem issues making them extremely easy to bang but impossible to deal with personality-wise
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.