BongDuy
Master Don Juan
What the hell does that mean? Is that really a bad thing?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
When she asks "Are you gay?"
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
It means one of two things,
1) "Why aren't you making a move on me? I am really making it obvious"
2) "I don't see you as a manly man I can see myself in the sack with."
1) "Why aren't you making a move on me? I am really making it obvious"
2) "I don't see you as a manly man I can see myself in the sack with."
ThatMysteriousGuy
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As mentioned, it's a good thing.BongDuy said:
I avoid answering questions directly so I'll say some non-answer to play with her:
"What's wrong with being gay?"
"You don't like gay people?"
"That's pretty personal don't you think?"
etc...
I almost always have a very slight smirk (CEastwood) when I'm saying things like that but sometimes an overly done deadpan (some JBond) is fun as well.
I had a girl at work where I'd been for a few weeks who started asking me if I was gay. She started up by harassing my about my toothbrush that was lightish red. Every few days she'd try to tease me about being gay. This means she's thinking about it more and more and it's getting her very attracted because I'm not getting angry and I'm refusing to settle the matter.
After a month of this one night I said "hey, lets go get a drink and check out some guys!" and laughed. I knew she wouldn't refuse, she likes me, wants to really figure out if I'm kidding, etc...
We had a great night and she told me why she asked. a) Wanted to know why she hadn't seen a female around and b) she noticed I wasn't fascinated by women like acting nervous or overly interested in any females at work.
*I'm always trying to find out what women are responding to by casually trying to find out what the main things were that specifically caught their interest.
thedude4242
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tell her not Im not gay, Ill prove it to yah. what are you doing later on tonight.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
E
Energizer
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I got into a relationship talk with a woman at work earlier. She asked me if I was gay when I sarcastically and honestly answered her questions about marriage etc and the fact that I don't want a girlfriend. I didn't detect any interest on her part though and if she did, I sabotaged them. :crackup:
DJ_Tekinkel
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Its a good sign, i get it a lot and usually things end out in a better way.
Hit her with a quirky response its got openings all over it!
"What!? I'm 100% straight baby, but you would look so much hotter if i could throw a helmet and shoulderpads on you"
EDIT: and most of the times when they ask that, they basically saying your too hot/awesome/attractive/whatever to be single etc
Hit her with a quirky response its got openings all over it!
"What!? I'm 100% straight baby, but you would look so much hotter if i could throw a helmet and shoulderpads on you"
EDIT: and most of the times when they ask that, they basically saying your too hot/awesome/attractive/whatever to be single etc
The Piano Master
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Happens to my friend all the time.BongDuy said:
Dante420
Master Don Juan
Laugh and say
"nah. . .but I'm too cool to be single huh?"
"nah. . .but I'm too cool to be single huh?"
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.