BongDuy
Master Don Juan
What the hell does that mean? Is that really a bad thing?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
When she asks "Are you gay?"
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
It means one of two things,
1) "Why aren't you making a move on me? I am really making it obvious"
2) "I don't see you as a manly man I can see myself in the sack with."
1) "Why aren't you making a move on me? I am really making it obvious"
2) "I don't see you as a manly man I can see myself in the sack with."
ThatMysteriousGuy
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As mentioned, it's a good thing.BongDuy said:
I avoid answering questions directly so I'll say some non-answer to play with her:
"What's wrong with being gay?"
"You don't like gay people?"
"That's pretty personal don't you think?"
etc...
I almost always have a very slight smirk (CEastwood) when I'm saying things like that but sometimes an overly done deadpan (some JBond) is fun as well.
I had a girl at work where I'd been for a few weeks who started asking me if I was gay. She started up by harassing my about my toothbrush that was lightish red. Every few days she'd try to tease me about being gay. This means she's thinking about it more and more and it's getting her very attracted because I'm not getting angry and I'm refusing to settle the matter.
After a month of this one night I said "hey, lets go get a drink and check out some guys!" and laughed. I knew she wouldn't refuse, she likes me, wants to really figure out if I'm kidding, etc...
We had a great night and she told me why she asked. a) Wanted to know why she hadn't seen a female around and b) she noticed I wasn't fascinated by women like acting nervous or overly interested in any females at work.
*I'm always trying to find out what women are responding to by casually trying to find out what the main things were that specifically caught their interest.
thedude4242
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tell her not Im not gay, Ill prove it to yah. what are you doing later on tonight.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
E
Energizer
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I got into a relationship talk with a woman at work earlier. She asked me if I was gay when I sarcastically and honestly answered her questions about marriage etc and the fact that I don't want a girlfriend. I didn't detect any interest on her part though and if she did, I sabotaged them. :crackup:
DJ_Tekinkel
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Its a good sign, i get it a lot and usually things end out in a better way.
Hit her with a quirky response its got openings all over it!
"What!? I'm 100% straight baby, but you would look so much hotter if i could throw a helmet and shoulderpads on you"
EDIT: and most of the times when they ask that, they basically saying your too hot/awesome/attractive/whatever to be single etc
Hit her with a quirky response its got openings all over it!
"What!? I'm 100% straight baby, but you would look so much hotter if i could throw a helmet and shoulderpads on you"
EDIT: and most of the times when they ask that, they basically saying your too hot/awesome/attractive/whatever to be single etc
The Piano Master
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Happens to my friend all the time.BongDuy said:
Dante420
Master Don Juan
Laugh and say
"nah. . .but I'm too cool to be single huh?"
"nah. . .but I'm too cool to be single huh?"
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.