Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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When she asks "Are you gay?"

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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It's-Me

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BongDuy said:
What the hell does that mean? Is that really a bad thing?
No it means she's interested. She's just wondering why your not with a girl.
 

Gangster Of Love

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It means one of two things,

1) "Why aren't you making a move on me? I am really making it obvious"

2) "I don't see you as a manly man I can see myself in the sack with."
 

ThatMysteriousGuy

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BongDuy said:
What the hell does that mean? Is that really a bad thing?
As mentioned, it's a good thing.

I avoid answering questions directly so I'll say some non-answer to play with her:

"What's wrong with being gay?"
"You don't like gay people?"
"That's pretty personal don't you think?"
etc...

I almost always have a very slight smirk (CEastwood) when I'm saying things like that but sometimes an overly done deadpan (some JBond) is fun as well.

I had a girl at work where I'd been for a few weeks who started asking me if I was gay. She started up by harassing my about my toothbrush that was lightish red. Every few days she'd try to tease me about being gay. This means she's thinking about it more and more and it's getting her very attracted because I'm not getting angry and I'm refusing to settle the matter.

After a month of this one night I said "hey, lets go get a drink and check out some guys!" and laughed. I knew she wouldn't refuse, she likes me, wants to really figure out if I'm kidding, etc...

We had a great night and she told me why she asked. a) Wanted to know why she hadn't seen a female around and b) she noticed I wasn't fascinated by women like acting nervous or overly interested in any females at work.

*I'm always trying to find out what women are responding to by casually trying to find out what the main things were that specifically caught their interest.
 

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tell her not Im not gay, Ill prove it to yah. what are you doing later on tonight.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Mr. Bond

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Ususally women ask me this when I know they want me but hold off just for laughs. You're fine.
 
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I got into a relationship talk with a woman at work earlier. She asked me if I was gay when I sarcastically and honestly answered her questions about marriage etc and the fact that I don't want a girlfriend. I didn't detect any interest on her part though and if she did, I sabotaged them. :crackup:
 

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Its a good sign, i get it a lot and usually things end out in a better way.
Hit her with a quirky response its got openings all over it!

"What!? I'm 100% straight baby, but you would look so much hotter if i could throw a helmet and shoulderpads on you"

EDIT: and most of the times when they ask that, they basically saying your too hot/awesome/attractive/whatever to be single etc
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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