Pierce Manhammer
Moderator
When libido is a burden, some men turn to unproven treatments
In search of a lower sex drive, many men seek sketchy supplements and groups rife with misinformation
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Maybe cruise for a while instead of blasting for months in end?This model did not come equipped with that package
My comment was not directed at you, since you’re not complaining about your libido being high and wanting to lower it.But why though? Cause a guy with who has an avatar of another man thinking he looks like that at that age says so?![]()
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I can always depend on you dude. It’s the thought that counts, they say. Had to add it to my keyboard lexicon because Apple didn’t have the foresight to add it.and if you google that, write 'puerile'.
This doesn't sound right but I don't care enough to actually look myselfIn all seriousness, a healthy way to lower your libido is fasting. Fasting, if done right, will lower your testosterone temporally while raising your HGH, among other health benefits.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.