"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Girl kept on responding via a matching app on my phone with nonsense questions without acknowledging my request for her number, something I have no patience for. The third time I asked, I added "last time I'll ask."

Today she responds with "I think we should Unmatch. I now really like another guy."

Now if she really didn't care about me knowing this, wouldn't she have just unmatched me and/or not responded? What does she get out of letting me know this? What is she trying to get me to do?

My response: "Ok...seems like info I really didn't need to know. But good luck with that."

This kind of stuff is so amusing. But I wonder - was she trying to move me off center?

Sh!t test?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Ain't that the truth, dustmuffin.

Another one got in touch on Saturday. I asked when she was free, she said that night or Tuesday (tomorrow), and all of January was busy because of her moving apartments on February 1. I said let's do Tuesday at 9. I have had a dinner with a colleague scheduled for weeks that night. Her response "A first date at 9 pm is unappealing."

I explained the time constraint I had and she said, "No girl who isn't desperate will tolerate being squeezed in for a first date at 9 pm."

So I was like, "Ok, I guess we're looking at January then. Let me know what works."

She said again that she had NO time in January because she would be packing for her move. BS nonsense excuse. So I said, since you're free tonight and Tuesday and our schedules don't work, why not get a head start on packing for your move so you have time to see me in January. She said she had no room for boxes in her 500 square foot apartment.

My response - "You need an entire month to pack a 500 sq. foot apartment?" She didn't like that, and got rude and obnoxious. Delete. :lol:
 
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What a fruit loop.
 
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Stugots26 said:
Girl kept on responding via a matching app on my phone with nonsense questions without acknowledging my request for her number, something I have no patience for. The third time I asked, I added "last time I'll ask."

Today she responds with "I think we should Unmatch. I now really like another guy."

Now if she really didn't care about me knowing this, wouldn't she have just unmatched me and/or not responded? What does she get out of letting me know this? What is she trying to get me to do?

My response: "Ok...seems like info I really didn't need to know. But good luck with that."

This kind of stuff is so amusing. But I wonder - was she trying to move me off center?

Sh!t test?
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Come on bro, she is trying to make a FOOL out of you. That is their whole goal, they want to see how desperate you are and then show their boyfriend so their boyfriend shapes up and buys them things.

Why would you ask a girl online THREE times for her number? You should ask ONCE, no response, move on. And when you said "last time I'll ask" really shows how desperate you are. You guys got to lower the ego and think from their point of view. Everything they do is for their benefit. They don't care above love/marriage/improving the world. These girls don't want a connection, they want to extract resources (money, sex, image) with the best guy they can find.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Stugots26 said:
Ain't that the truth, dustmuffin.

Another one got in touch on Saturday. I asked when she was free, she said that night or Tuesday (tomorrow), and all of January was busy because of her moving apartments on February 1. I said let's do Tuesday at 9. I have had a dinner with a colleague scheduled for weeks that night. Her response "A first date at 9 pm is unappealing."

I explained the time constraint I had and she said, "No girl who isn't desperate will tolerate being squeezed in for a first date at 9 pm."

So I was like, "Ok, I guess we're looking at January then. Let me know what works."

She said again that she had NO time in January because she would be packing for her move. BS nonsense excuse. So I said, since you're free tonight and Tuesday and our schedules don't work, why not get a head start on packing for your move so you have time to see me in January. She said she had no room for boxes in her 500 square foot apartment.

My response - "You need an entire month to pack a 500 sq. foot apartment?" She didn't like that, and got rude and obnoxious. Delete. :lol:
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She wanted to be in charge
 
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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