"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Stugots26

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Girl kept on responding via a matching app on my phone with nonsense questions without acknowledging my request for her number, something I have no patience for. The third time I asked, I added "last time I'll ask."

Today she responds with "I think we should Unmatch. I now really like another guy."

Now if she really didn't care about me knowing this, wouldn't she have just unmatched me and/or not responded? What does she get out of letting me know this? What is she trying to get me to do?

My response: "Ok...seems like info I really didn't need to know. But good luck with that."

This kind of stuff is so amusing. But I wonder - was she trying to move me off center?

Sh!t test?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Stugots26

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Ain't that the truth, dustmuffin.

Another one got in touch on Saturday. I asked when she was free, she said that night or Tuesday (tomorrow), and all of January was busy because of her moving apartments on February 1. I said let's do Tuesday at 9. I have had a dinner with a colleague scheduled for weeks that night. Her response "A first date at 9 pm is unappealing."

I explained the time constraint I had and she said, "No girl who isn't desperate will tolerate being squeezed in for a first date at 9 pm."

So I was like, "Ok, I guess we're looking at January then. Let me know what works."

She said again that she had NO time in January because she would be packing for her move. BS nonsense excuse. So I said, since you're free tonight and Tuesday and our schedules don't work, why not get a head start on packing for your move so you have time to see me in January. She said she had no room for boxes in her 500 square foot apartment.

My response - "You need an entire month to pack a 500 sq. foot apartment?" She didn't like that, and got rude and obnoxious. Delete. :lol:
 

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What a fruit loop.
 

Trump

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Girl kept on responding via a matching app on my phone with nonsense questions without acknowledging my request for her number, something I have no patience for. The third time I asked, I added "last time I'll ask."

Today she responds with "I think we should Unmatch. I now really like another guy."

Now if she really didn't care about me knowing this, wouldn't she have just unmatched me and/or not responded? What does she get out of letting me know this? What is she trying to get me to do?

My response: "Ok...seems like info I really didn't need to know. But good luck with that."

This kind of stuff is so amusing. But I wonder - was she trying to move me off center?

Sh!t test?
Come on bro, she is trying to make a FOOL out of you. That is their whole goal, they want to see how desperate you are and then show their boyfriend so their boyfriend shapes up and buys them things.

Why would you ask a girl online THREE times for her number? You should ask ONCE, no response, move on. And when you said "last time I'll ask" really shows how desperate you are. You guys got to lower the ego and think from their point of view. Everything they do is for their benefit. They don't care above love/marriage/improving the world. These girls don't want a connection, they want to extract resources (money, sex, image) with the best guy they can find.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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dustmuffin

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Ain't that the truth, dustmuffin.

Another one got in touch on Saturday. I asked when she was free, she said that night or Tuesday (tomorrow), and all of January was busy because of her moving apartments on February 1. I said let's do Tuesday at 9. I have had a dinner with a colleague scheduled for weeks that night. Her response "A first date at 9 pm is unappealing."

I explained the time constraint I had and she said, "No girl who isn't desperate will tolerate being squeezed in for a first date at 9 pm."

So I was like, "Ok, I guess we're looking at January then. Let me know what works."

She said again that she had NO time in January because she would be packing for her move. BS nonsense excuse. So I said, since you're free tonight and Tuesday and our schedules don't work, why not get a head start on packing for your move so you have time to see me in January. She said she had no room for boxes in her 500 square foot apartment.

My response - "You need an entire month to pack a 500 sq. foot apartment?" She didn't like that, and got rude and obnoxious. Delete. :lol:
She wanted to be in charge
 

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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