"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
When a woman says this
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
rgeere
Master Don Juan
Basically, she doesn't want to hurt you, so is telling you what may or may not be BS to try to comfort you because she doesn't perfer you.
Nightspark
Senior Don Juan
i always thought it was some sort of challenge or something, but then again it's like she's tryna make u jump thru hoops to gain her interests...
thanks for clearing that up rgeere ^^
but what happens if you have already had sex and what not with the girl and then she turns around and says your not my type.Originally posted by rgeere
It means that it invalidates any sort of "fluff talk" she is telling you to try to soften the blow of rejection ...
Basically, she doesn't want to hurt you, so is telling you what may or may not be BS to try to comfort you because she doesn't perfer you.
Many women are confused anyways and half don't really know what they want.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
rgeere
Master Don Juan
In logic this is truth, in illogic this is false ... She more than likely just has other priorities and wishes you the best ...
rgeere
Master Don Juan
She decided you two wern't compatible with oneanother - It happens ...Originally posted by christz
but what happens if you have already had sex and what not with the girl and then she turns around and says your not my type.
I will give you an example of this that I just experienced yesterday.Originally posted by sapphire
I have had sex with women to whom I supposedly was not there type. It all goes back to the addage: don't listen to what a woman says, but look what she does.
Many women are confused anyways and half don't really know what they want.
This girl I was seeing who I just broke up with but decided to stay friends with went out with me after work to hang out for happy hour. Long story short, we were trying to work the FWB relationship, and she didn't want to do it, but we basically got to the point where we were essentially doing it, and you can tell she was trying to act like she was trying to stop me, but she didn't. She said all this stuff, and in the end, I was still doing stuff to her. She could have gotten mad and just completely run off, but she put up a little resistance, then just gave in.