"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
What's wrong with the discussion forum?
- Thread starter Anson
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
if you click on general discussion, then look up at the URL there's a place where it says number=1
change it to number=2 and then they'll show up
link needs to be fixed
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Doing that (if I understood you correctly) puts me in the high school forum.
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Sigh. All gone. All those great posts, and now they're gone forever. (ok, just a little Sunday afternoon melodrama.)
It's the filtering apparently. If you try to filter it down to the last ten days, or even the last year it chokes. But if you select to show ALL posts, then you get the threads.
Probably the same issue as the search feature which has been choking recently. Maybe the database software can't handle that many threads. Too bad, because in the scheme of things 5800 threads is not all that much. My usenet newsreader has over 100,000 searchable threads on my hard drive.
DB
http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum1/HTML/012824.html
When you said it had thousands of replies I thought someone played a prank and posted a super long thread that mucked up the system.
But actually it lists as having 2 BILLION replies which is impossible--it would take several lifetimes to post that many replies so it might just be a symptom of something going wrong in the system.
I hope the sosuave administrator is working on this.
DB
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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Here it is:
http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum1/HTML/012813.html
I don't know WHY this thread caused the problem, I only know that it DID. I hope this helps.
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"Before we set our hearts too much upon anything, let us examine how happy those are who already possess it."
Francois de La Rochefoucauld
Did I say something that offended you? Click here
http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum1/HTML/13.html
it has like 2 million replies
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The link that you posted was intended to be the one that I posted, but got truncated. It then got all goofy. Who knows why.Originally posted by Amlothi:
you mean this one?
http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum1/HTML/13.html
it has like 2 million replies
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CASANOVA
"You can discover what your enemy fears most by observing the means he uses to frighten you."
Eric Hoffer
"I may disagree with what you have to say, but I shall defend, to the death, your right to say it."
Voltaire
"Before we set our hearts too much upon anything, let us examine how happy those are who already possess it."
Francois de La Rochefoucauld
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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I'll try to find a solution for this problem, but right now we'll just have to keep the main DJD forum limited to somewhere around 42 or 43 thousand posts.
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Now how are we supposed to get by with only 42 or 43 thousand posts?
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"You can discover what your enemy fears most by observing the means he uses to frighten you."
Eric Hoffer
"I may disagree with what you have to say, but I shall defend, to the death, your right to say it."
Voltaire
"Before we set our hearts too much upon anything, let us examine how happy those are who already possess it."
Francois de La Rochefoucauld
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