"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
What's wrong with the discussion forum?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
if you click on general discussion, then look up at the URL there's a place where it says number=1
change it to number=2 and then they'll show up
link needs to be fixed
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Doing that (if I understood you correctly) puts me in the high school forum.
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Sigh. All gone. All those great posts, and now they're gone forever. (ok, just a little Sunday afternoon melodrama.)
It's the filtering apparently. If you try to filter it down to the last ten days, or even the last year it chokes. But if you select to show ALL posts, then you get the threads.
Probably the same issue as the search feature which has been choking recently. Maybe the database software can't handle that many threads. Too bad, because in the scheme of things 5800 threads is not all that much. My usenet newsreader has over 100,000 searchable threads on my hard drive.
DB
http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum1/HTML/012824.html
When you said it had thousands of replies I thought someone played a prank and posted a super long thread that mucked up the system.
But actually it lists as having 2 BILLION replies which is impossible--it would take several lifetimes to post that many replies so it might just be a symptom of something going wrong in the system.
I hope the sosuave administrator is working on this.
DB
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
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Here it is:
http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum1/HTML/012813.html
I don't know WHY this thread caused the problem, I only know that it DID. I hope this helps.
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"Before we set our hearts too much upon anything, let us examine how happy those are who already possess it."
Francois de La Rochefoucauld
Did I say something that offended you? Click here
http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum1/HTML/13.html
it has like 2 million replies
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Giovanni Casanova
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The link that you posted was intended to be the one that I posted, but got truncated. It then got all goofy. Who knows why.Originally posted by Amlothi:
you mean this one?
http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum1/HTML/13.html
it has like 2 million replies
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CASANOVA
"You can discover what your enemy fears most by observing the means he uses to frighten you."
Eric Hoffer
"I may disagree with what you have to say, but I shall defend, to the death, your right to say it."
Voltaire
"Before we set our hearts too much upon anything, let us examine how happy those are who already possess it."
Francois de La Rochefoucauld
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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I'll try to find a solution for this problem, but right now we'll just have to keep the main DJD forum limited to somewhere around 42 or 43 thousand posts.
Giovanni Casanova
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Now how are we supposed to get by with only 42 or 43 thousand posts?
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CASANOVA
"You can discover what your enemy fears most by observing the means he uses to frighten you."
Eric Hoffer
"I may disagree with what you have to say, but I shall defend, to the death, your right to say it."
Voltaire
"Before we set our hearts too much upon anything, let us examine how happy those are who already possess it."
Francois de La Rochefoucauld
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