MountainSlide
Master Don Juan
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I swear, everywhere I look betas. Kinda funny really.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
WTF?BraddH said:Education is for the mass, the beta. There are so many world great people who never went to school or dropped out. Education in one hand is made for the beta-like people who wants someone to tell him exactly what to do for his whole life. Someone who can control them.
You could say he higher you go in education, the more beta you will see. Remember to keep yourself from becoming a beta there!
Yes, true.SmooveMooves said:Education institutions and degrees aren't as useful as they were in the past. But they're not completely useless. People who have gone to college still on average make significant more amounts of money than their college-less counterparts.
Also, theres no correlation between Education & Betaness. Most men are beta. So, anywhere your likely to see a lot of betas.
Stay DJ. Enjoy all the new betas on campus. The more there are, the more you stand.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
What? haha, they followed her everywhere like zombies??Bible_Belt said:I remember the hottest girl at my college had a minimum of 6-8 drooling AFCs literally orbiting around her every time I saw her. They followed her everywhere like zombies.
This was before cel phones and facebook/instagram. You couldn't be a cyber-orbiter back then, you had to physically do it in person. Guys followed her like a cloud of dust. I never saw any of them get anywhere with her.AttackFormation said:What? haha, they followed her everywhere like zombies??
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Hahahaha, man! that sounds really funny. Drooling AFC literally following her around in person like a cloud of dust or zombies, LOL, I can't stop laughing. I wish I could've seen it with youBible_Belt said:This was before cel phones and facebook/instagram. You couldn't be a cyber-orbiter back then, you had to physically do it in person. Guys followed her like a cloud of dust. I never saw any of them get anywhere with her.
She was Puerto Rican and didn't speak great English. I never had much of a chance. I had a partying buddy who was the son of a billionaire from Monaco, and he drew girls like flies, so she was around a lot. She had a body like a plastic surgeon's masterpiece except it was all real.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.