"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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What's the most angry you've gotten over rejection?

Demystify

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So I just slammed all my clothes on the floor really hard and kept on hitting my mattress repeatedly and now my knuckles are bleeding really badly. Can anyone top this? lol
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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(JJ)

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absolutely never.

never anything close.

external locus of control = horrible.

you shouldnt rely on anything to bring your happiness to you. you should be completely secure in yourself, such that you know that nothing really is THAT important.

anything that you cannot control is your master. is this girl who occupies literally zero role in your life that great that you should allow her to be your master? probably not.

this is essentially the idea of inner game, and yours appears to be weak from a post like this. diagnosing and recognizing the problem is the hardest part. hit the weights, pursue hobbies, understand that you are amazing as a person and get comfortable with that FACT.

as soon as you reach that point, you will never have to get on an internet forum with posts like this again. guaranteed.
 

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i wouldn't have thought a mattress would make your knuckles bleed.... did you tear through into the springs. haha ouch

but seriously, what the guy said above. you should be your own master.
 

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Demystify said:
So I just slammed all my clothes on the floor really hard and kept on hitting my mattress repeatedly and now my knuckles are bleeding really badly. Can anyone top this? lol

I've done similar things. Knuckles weren't bleeding but yes throwing sh*t, slamming stuff, sure.

I don't know that getting mad is really a problem as long as you make it an opportunity to improve yourself and keep moving forward. To think you're going to be some stone that has ZERO emotion is just plain retarded IMO.


What if you didn't get a great job you were going after? I don't think it would be a big deal to get a little angry. I
don't see why losing a girl is any different. I just don't get that.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Furyguy

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A better place, a better time.
Angry enough to finally ****ing do something about it find this site. That was a couple years ago. So I guess it was a good thing in the end.
 

Demystify

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Guys my knuckles are bleeding again, oh the pains of rejection
 

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I've never gotten angry over a rejection.

Usually a blow to my confidence but nothing I couldn't recover from.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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I used to get really mad about it in high school...but i was absurdly immature back then (as most of us were, I think).
 

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dude, why are you getting so worked up over rejection from one girl

who cares, unless for you girls are hard to come by i guess.

just keep going out, keep meeting other women, it takes two to tango, you don't want to be with somebody who doesn't want to be with you

you should be the one choosing girls who YOU want to be with

that philosphy works for me, but i get lots of girls to chose from though, but i think you should stick with it

cheers
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Demystify

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Bump

My right arm is so sore from hitting the air so many times.
 
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