"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
What's the most angry you've gotten over rejection?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
never anything close.
external locus of control = horrible.
you shouldnt rely on anything to bring your happiness to you. you should be completely secure in yourself, such that you know that nothing really is THAT important.
anything that you cannot control is your master. is this girl who occupies literally zero role in your life that great that you should allow her to be your master? probably not.
this is essentially the idea of inner game, and yours appears to be weak from a post like this. diagnosing and recognizing the problem is the hardest part. hit the weights, pursue hobbies, understand that you are amazing as a person and get comfortable with that FACT.
as soon as you reach that point, you will never have to get on an internet forum with posts like this again. guaranteed.
Demystify said:So I just slammed all my clothes on the floor really hard and kept on hitting my mattress repeatedly and now my knuckles are bleeding really badly. Can anyone top this? lol
I've done similar things. Knuckles weren't bleeding but yes throwing sh*t, slamming stuff, sure.
I don't know that getting mad is really a problem as long as you make it an opportunity to improve yourself and keep moving forward. To think you're going to be some stone that has ZERO emotion is just plain retarded IMO.
What if you didn't get a great job you were going after? I don't think it would be a big deal to get a little angry. I
don't see why losing a girl is any different. I just don't get that.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YersIyzsOpc
who cares, unless for you girls are hard to come by i guess.
just keep going out, keep meeting other women, it takes two to tango, you don't want to be with somebody who doesn't want to be with you
you should be the one choosing girls who YOU want to be with
that philosphy works for me, but i get lots of girls to chose from though, but i think you should stick with it
cheers
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Ahahahaha real or fake that **** is ****ing hilarious.r0cky said:This is how mad I get:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YersIyzsOpc
hahahahar0cky said:This is how mad I get:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YersIyzsOpc
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.