Maximus Rex
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Why didn't you to for an insta-date at the food court?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Whats the deal I get womens number at mall they ignore?
- Thread starter Shootin4Dreams
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Shootin4Dreams
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28 sir. How do i transition to a instadate?
MrWood
Master Don Juan
Lets grab a beer at XYZ across the street.
Shootin4Dreams
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What do you say before hand so they want to?
marmel75
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Nothing. That's the problem...you don't get it. They will want to because you are confident enough to ask them and assume they will comply without NEEDING a reason. That in and of itself is a huge turn on.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
MrWood
Master Don Juan
OP Sir...
this is what I call my day game, it should be your only game.
All other game plays off if it because it is you.
for me it is my style, I am a chatty guy especially with cashiers and a casual random comment.
My recent past was LTR's without stop, now I am single and abit timid to fire that ask out gun. My GFs were always telling me to stop flirting, and I wasn't aware I was. With a simple extension to my already casual and commentitive personality, I now throw in what I've learned here and elsewhere.
dont ask for numbers
instadate / set a clear time/place directly to her face, after work 8pm at XYZ
if you dont instadate, walk away happy as it is not easy to pull the trigger
the more times you shoot, the more accurate you become
be direct, and suggestive, smile as if you have a funny secret..
look them in the eye, notice if they smile back? look down?
deflect the boyfriend directly "I didnt ask if you had a BF, I asked you out for a drink"
be confident and outcome independent
(you didnt have a date with her before you didnt ask...)
/me gets popcorn
this is what I call my day game, it should be your only game.
All other game plays off if it because it is you.
for me it is my style, I am a chatty guy especially with cashiers and a casual random comment.
My recent past was LTR's without stop, now I am single and abit timid to fire that ask out gun. My GFs were always telling me to stop flirting, and I wasn't aware I was. With a simple extension to my already casual and commentitive personality, I now throw in what I've learned here and elsewhere.
dont ask for numbers
instadate / set a clear time/place directly to her face, after work 8pm at XYZ
if you dont instadate, walk away happy as it is not easy to pull the trigger
the more times you shoot, the more accurate you become
be direct, and suggestive, smile as if you have a funny secret..
look them in the eye, notice if they smile back? look down?
deflect the boyfriend directly "I didnt ask if you had a BF, I asked you out for a drink"
be confident and outcome independent
(you didnt have a date with her before you didnt ask...)
/me gets popcorn
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