Maximus Rex
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Why didn't you to for an insta-date at the food court?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Whats the deal I get womens number at mall they ignore?
- Thread starter Shootin4Dreams
- Start date
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Shootin4Dreams
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28 sir. How do i transition to a instadate?
MrWood
Master Don Juan
Lets grab a beer at XYZ across the street.
Shootin4Dreams
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What do you say before hand so they want to?
marmel75
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Nothing. That's the problem...you don't get it. They will want to because you are confident enough to ask them and assume they will comply without NEEDING a reason. That in and of itself is a huge turn on.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
MrWood
Master Don Juan
OP Sir...
this is what I call my day game, it should be your only game.
All other game plays off if it because it is you.
for me it is my style, I am a chatty guy especially with cashiers and a casual random comment.
My recent past was LTR's without stop, now I am single and abit timid to fire that ask out gun. My GFs were always telling me to stop flirting, and I wasn't aware I was. With a simple extension to my already casual and commentitive personality, I now throw in what I've learned here and elsewhere.
dont ask for numbers
instadate / set a clear time/place directly to her face, after work 8pm at XYZ
if you dont instadate, walk away happy as it is not easy to pull the trigger
the more times you shoot, the more accurate you become
be direct, and suggestive, smile as if you have a funny secret..
look them in the eye, notice if they smile back? look down?
deflect the boyfriend directly "I didnt ask if you had a BF, I asked you out for a drink"
be confident and outcome independent
(you didnt have a date with her before you didnt ask...)
/me gets popcorn
this is what I call my day game, it should be your only game.
All other game plays off if it because it is you.
for me it is my style, I am a chatty guy especially with cashiers and a casual random comment.
My recent past was LTR's without stop, now I am single and abit timid to fire that ask out gun. My GFs were always telling me to stop flirting, and I wasn't aware I was. With a simple extension to my already casual and commentitive personality, I now throw in what I've learned here and elsewhere.
dont ask for numbers
instadate / set a clear time/place directly to her face, after work 8pm at XYZ
if you dont instadate, walk away happy as it is not easy to pull the trigger
the more times you shoot, the more accurate you become
be direct, and suggestive, smile as if you have a funny secret..
look them in the eye, notice if they smile back? look down?
deflect the boyfriend directly "I didnt ask if you had a BF, I asked you out for a drink"
be confident and outcome independent
(you didnt have a date with her before you didnt ask...)
/me gets popcorn
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