Maximus Rex
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Why didn't you to for an insta-date at the food court?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Whats the deal I get womens number at mall they ignore?
- Thread starter Shootin4Dreams
- Start date
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Shootin4Dreams
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28 sir. How do i transition to a instadate?
MrWood
Master Don Juan
Lets grab a beer at XYZ across the street.
Shootin4Dreams
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What do you say before hand so they want to?
marmel75
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Nothing. That's the problem...you don't get it. They will want to because you are confident enough to ask them and assume they will comply without NEEDING a reason. That in and of itself is a huge turn on.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
MrWood
Master Don Juan
OP Sir...
this is what I call my day game, it should be your only game.
All other game plays off if it because it is you.
for me it is my style, I am a chatty guy especially with cashiers and a casual random comment.
My recent past was LTR's without stop, now I am single and abit timid to fire that ask out gun. My GFs were always telling me to stop flirting, and I wasn't aware I was. With a simple extension to my already casual and commentitive personality, I now throw in what I've learned here and elsewhere.
dont ask for numbers
instadate / set a clear time/place directly to her face, after work 8pm at XYZ
if you dont instadate, walk away happy as it is not easy to pull the trigger
the more times you shoot, the more accurate you become
be direct, and suggestive, smile as if you have a funny secret..
look them in the eye, notice if they smile back? look down?
deflect the boyfriend directly "I didnt ask if you had a BF, I asked you out for a drink"
be confident and outcome independent
(you didnt have a date with her before you didnt ask...)
/me gets popcorn
this is what I call my day game, it should be your only game.
All other game plays off if it because it is you.
for me it is my style, I am a chatty guy especially with cashiers and a casual random comment.
My recent past was LTR's without stop, now I am single and abit timid to fire that ask out gun. My GFs were always telling me to stop flirting, and I wasn't aware I was. With a simple extension to my already casual and commentitive personality, I now throw in what I've learned here and elsewhere.
dont ask for numbers
instadate / set a clear time/place directly to her face, after work 8pm at XYZ
if you dont instadate, walk away happy as it is not easy to pull the trigger
the more times you shoot, the more accurate you become
be direct, and suggestive, smile as if you have a funny secret..
look them in the eye, notice if they smile back? look down?
deflect the boyfriend directly "I didnt ask if you had a BF, I asked you out for a drink"
be confident and outcome independent
(you didnt have a date with her before you didnt ask...)
/me gets popcorn
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