SELF-MASTERY
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Does this also apply to DJ's? I don't want to be a PUA.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Whats the Biggest Part Of Being A PUA
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
KarmaSutra
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I voted Naturality. I see that as hardest to master and obtain for guys who don't naturally have that ability.
Serialized3
Master Don Juan
True confidence and comfort with self (other)
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Sargeholic
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Confidence, drive, and persistence.
The Nice Guy is Gone
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If I understand naturality (being natural), that's what I went with; it's how I've been doing my approaches lately, alhthough I haven't had any in a couple of days. I'm going to watch the game tomorrow night though, so we'll see when I'm at the bar.
everywomanshero
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Low Key
Never using any terms that will tag you as a guy who learns how to pickup women online. Talk about screaming neediness with a big, flashy sign
Never using any terms that will tag you as a guy who learns how to pickup women online. Talk about screaming neediness with a big, flashy sign
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
satyriasis
Don Juan
I pick vibing. I rather know that I will be guaranteed to click with all the females I talk to.
GS-83
Don Juan
To me vibing encompasses most of your options, so that`s my pick..
Vibing = having fun
Vibing = having fun
CHOCOLATE(COLA)
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if u having fun u smiling, and u showing good body language
guitaronfire411
Senior Don Juan
Confidence, persistance, and having a great body+penis.
Good_Vibes
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The difference PUA vs. DJ?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.