SELF-MASTERY
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Does this also apply to DJ's? I don't want to be a PUA.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Whats the Biggest Part Of Being A PUA
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
KarmaSutra
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I voted Naturality. I see that as hardest to master and obtain for guys who don't naturally have that ability.
Serialized3
Master Don Juan
True confidence and comfort with self (other)
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Sargeholic
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Confidence, drive, and persistence.
The Nice Guy is Gone
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If I understand naturality (being natural), that's what I went with; it's how I've been doing my approaches lately, alhthough I haven't had any in a couple of days. I'm going to watch the game tomorrow night though, so we'll see when I'm at the bar.
everywomanshero
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Low Key
Never using any terms that will tag you as a guy who learns how to pickup women online. Talk about screaming neediness with a big, flashy sign
Never using any terms that will tag you as a guy who learns how to pickup women online. Talk about screaming neediness with a big, flashy sign
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
satyriasis
Don Juan
I pick vibing. I rather know that I will be guaranteed to click with all the females I talk to.
GS-83
Don Juan
To me vibing encompasses most of your options, so that`s my pick..
Vibing = having fun
Vibing = having fun
CHOCOLATE(COLA)
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if u having fun u smiling, and u showing good body language
guitaronfire411
Senior Don Juan
Confidence, persistance, and having a great body+penis.
Good_Vibes
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The difference PUA vs. DJ?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.