I'm so bored right now and I don't know what to do. I don't have many friends which sucks. I feel pretty insecure going out in public by myself because I feel like everyone is watching me because I'm all by my lonesome. I can only play so many videogames or watc so much TV. Anyone have any suggestions.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Whats a guy do to on a Saturday night??
- Thread starter bud_2005
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
redspicyflag
Master Don Juan
Get rid of your insecurity
Go and join a class or something
Do something you love or want to learn
Go and join a class or something
Do something you love or want to learn
Poonani Maker
Master Don Juan
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When I go it alone, I always behave as a "gentleman." Think of hunting with hunting dogs, relaxed, calm, cool, collected. Just sip your beer man.
Ken785
Master Don Juan
Watch UFC 90.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
DogFashionDisco
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Jerk off.
thefonz
Master Don Juan
Not to be a ****, but you've been on this site for over 6 years! What have you been doing with yourself?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
thefonz
Master Don Juan
No, you're not a lost cause. You're just lazy. I don't want you to give up, I'd much rather you take the advice and put it into use in your daily life. There is so much potential in your life to become great with all the tools available. It's sooo worth it.bud_2005 said: