"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Whats a guy do to on a Saturday night??

bud_2005

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I'm so bored right now and I don't know what to do. I don't have many friends which sucks. I feel pretty insecure going out in public by myself because I feel like everyone is watching me because I'm all by my lonesome. I can only play so many videogames or watc so much TV. Anyone have any suggestions.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Poonani Maker

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When I go it alone, I always behave as a "gentleman." Think of hunting with hunting dogs, relaxed, calm, cool, collected. Just sip your beer man.
 

mpimpin

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Go to a bar. Become a regular.

I just DJ'd one tonight(music) and had a blast. Everyone worked there or was a regular and acted as a family
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Groovy

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I say work off! :up:

Or get a dog.
 

thefonz

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Not to be a ****, but you've been on this site for over 6 years! What have you been doing with yourself?
 

bud_2005

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Your right fonz I just give up it's worthless i'm a lost cause.
 

Alle_Gory

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bud_2005 said:
Your right fonz I just give up it's worthless i'm a lost cause.
And here is your problem. Bad thoughts.

You're using this as an excuse. There's no such thing as a lost cause as long as you have some will left in you.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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thefonz

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bud_2005 said:
Your right fonz I just give up it's worthless i'm a lost cause.
No, you're not a lost cause. You're just lazy. I don't want you to give up, I'd much rather you take the advice and put it into use in your daily life. There is so much potential in your life to become great with all the tools available. It's sooo worth it.
 
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