now if someone on forum offends me i will tell him OK im not mad at you bro because i know youre just s.hit testing me
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
what was the purpose of her doing this?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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I mean i did catch her staring at me all day. Which means nothing but what this a sh!t test or she thinks nothing of me
humans stare at:
nice things
things they want to kill
i doubt she wants to kill u.
YES SHE LIKEZ U
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Love the sarcasm
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
tbh women dont **** test me usually, the ones who did it seemed like they have more options than just me
also it doesnt even look like a **** test in ur case, more like she recognizd him as more handsome than u and immediately thought shes out of his league
now he just tells you "the handsome guy" cus thats how she remembered him. eg. the fat guy, the old guy
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Gotcha
FlexpertHamilton
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Men don't **** test other men in anywhere near the same way or reasons that a women do it.
of course i was joking, you dont need to take it so seriously. i never said men sh.it test other men
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What do you guys mean by letting a woman pull you into there frame
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
mrgoodstuff
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In this situation where she wanted to make you look weak if you go with it your in her frame.