she barely talks in our conversation. Like I called up my gf yesterday and even though she was painting, I would ask her all these questions and only give me short answers. (one or two words) How can she expect me to talk 2 her and have fun with it when that is all she does.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
What to do when...
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Marf
Don Juan
Either you should be asking other questions that make her give longer answers.... or you should be telling stories and such
ask more personal questions that wouldnt have one or two word answers such as"how was your day?""what did you do today?".those open ended questions allow her to give you the chance to ask questions on top of that.examples
you-hey how was your day?
her - great!,boring,exciting etc.
you- no way! how come(works with any response)
her - blah blah blah etc.
there is a example
you-hey how was your day?
her - great!,boring,exciting etc.
you- no way! how come(works with any response)
her - blah blah blah etc.
there is a example
vanwilder
Senior Don Juan
or you could have said is anything significant happen at work or something along those lines that require a longer answer. with asking how work was, she will simply reply with a one word sentence as that is all that is needed to answer the question. be broad with the statement while yet asking for some detail i guess 
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
what tone of voice is she using ?
happy to hear from you?
bored to death of you?
listen for the tone.
happy to hear from you?
bored to death of you?
listen for the tone.