she barely talks in our conversation. Like I called up my gf yesterday and even though she was painting, I would ask her all these questions and only give me short answers. (one or two words) How can she expect me to talk 2 her and have fun with it when that is all she does.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
What to do when...
- Thread starter bud_2005
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Marf
Don Juan
Either you should be asking other questions that make her give longer answers.... or you should be telling stories and such
ask more personal questions that wouldnt have one or two word answers such as"how was your day?""what did you do today?".those open ended questions allow her to give you the chance to ask questions on top of that.examples
you-hey how was your day?
her - great!,boring,exciting etc.
you- no way! how come(works with any response)
her - blah blah blah etc.
there is a example
you-hey how was your day?
her - great!,boring,exciting etc.
you- no way! how come(works with any response)
her - blah blah blah etc.
there is a example
vanwilder
Senior Don Juan
or you could have said is anything significant happen at work or something along those lines that require a longer answer. with asking how work was, she will simply reply with a one word sentence as that is all that is needed to answer the question. be broad with the statement while yet asking for some detail i guess 
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
what tone of voice is she using ?
happy to hear from you?
bored to death of you?
listen for the tone.
happy to hear from you?
bored to death of you?
listen for the tone.