You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Yes, you don't want to end up like this guy:You got the number. Nothing good can come from asking if she’s single. Don’t ask.
Irrespective of her relationship status, it would be in your best interest to keep things discreet. Don’t tell your buddies that you have a date with this girl or you hooked up with her. Don’t mention her at all.
1. If she’s single, she’ll appreciate that you don’t kiss and tell.
2. If she’s not single, there is less chance of big Brett/Bruno/Tyrese finding out about it lol.
Win-win.
You will find out in due course if she’s actually single. But now isn’t the time. Don’t ask.
Good luck man.
Yeah I’ve been meaning to reread it for a while now. It’s been 2 years since I’ve read it cover to cover.Dude you’ve been on these forums almost 15 months according to when you logged on. This is basic stuff in the DJ bible. You need to re read it ASAP.
If she gave you her number, it DOES NOT MATTER. Wait 2 days, tell her you’ve been busy, ask her out,go out on date, kiss her. What’s so hard?
I got this girls number. She has my contact and I want to invite her out for some drinks. Thing is, she might have someone but she didn’t say. Should my first text be straight to the point asking her out?Dude you’ve been on these forums almost 15 months according to when you logged on. This is basic stuff in the DJ bible. You need to re read it ASAP.
If she gave you her number, it DOES NOT MATTER. Wait 2 days, tell her you’ve been busy, ask her out,go out on date, kiss her. What’s so hard?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Don't ask her about her boyfriend untill she introduces this thing by herself. Just ask her out, be man to woman and hold nice masculine frame, even if she has boyfriend, hypergamy will make her cheat.I got this girl's number, I see her around campus a lot. I'm not sure if she has a boyfriend or not. Is it the right move just to straight up ask if she's single? I'd like to just use my words and ask, but I feel like it isn't the right move. Cause if she says yes and I still escalate that seems kinda sleazy. I'm about to learn how to smoothly steal a girl from her boyfriend. Some don't like that but I wanna learn.
How would you Don Juans handle this?