"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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What to do when you're not sure a girl has a boyfriend?

MatureDJ

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I've had so many women - even the ones that I had absolutely no interest in - blurt this out early on in our conversation that I deduce that any woman that doesn't say she has a boyfriend is single & available.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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MatureDJ

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You got the number. Nothing good can come from asking if she’s single. Don’t ask.

Irrespective of her relationship status, it would be in your best interest to keep things discreet. Don’t tell your buddies that you have a date with this girl or you hooked up with her. Don’t mention her at all.

1. If she’s single, she’ll appreciate that you don’t kiss and tell.

2. If she’s not single, there is less chance of big Brett/Bruno/Tyrese finding out about it lol.

Win-win.

You will find out in due course if she’s actually single. But now isn’t the time. Don’t ask.

Good luck man.
Yes, you don't want to end up like this guy:

http://newswebexpress.com/jealous-husband-kills-wifes-lover-in-matrimonial-bed/
 

CMNILS87

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Dude you’ve been on these forums almost 15 months according to when you logged on. This is basic stuff in the DJ bible. You need to re read it ASAP.

If she gave you her number, it DOES NOT MATTER. Wait 2 days, tell her you’ve been busy, ask her out,go out on date, kiss her. What’s so hard?
 

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Dude you’ve been on these forums almost 15 months according to when you logged on. This is basic stuff in the DJ bible. You need to re read it ASAP.

If she gave you her number, it DOES NOT MATTER. Wait 2 days, tell her you’ve been busy, ask her out,go out on date, kiss her. What’s so hard?
Yeah I’ve been meaning to reread it for a while now. It’s been 2 years since I’ve read it cover to cover.

Do you remember what section that advice is in? I may just be rusty, but I don’t seem to remember reading anything like that.

And I definitely plan on getting her out as soon as my schedule frees up.
 

shouldbefun

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Dude you’ve been on these forums almost 15 months according to when you logged on. This is basic stuff in the DJ bible. You need to re read it ASAP.

If she gave you her number, it DOES NOT MATTER. Wait 2 days, tell her you’ve been busy, ask her out,go out on date, kiss her. What’s so hard?
I got this girls number. She has my contact and I want to invite her out for some drinks. Thing is, she might have someone but she didn’t say. Should my first text be straight to the point asking her out?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I got this girl's number, I see her around campus a lot. I'm not sure if she has a boyfriend or not. Is it the right move just to straight up ask if she's single? I'd like to just use my words and ask, but I feel like it isn't the right move. Cause if she says yes and I still escalate that seems kinda sleazy. I'm about to learn how to smoothly steal a girl from her boyfriend. Some don't like that but I wanna learn.

How would you Don Juans handle this?
Don't ask her about her boyfriend untill she introduces this thing by herself. Just ask her out, be man to woman and hold nice masculine frame, even if she has boyfriend, hypergamy will make her cheat.
 
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