"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
what to do, what to do
- Thread starter anx1ety
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Correct. Stupid thread. I was just wondering if there were fun things to do I wasn't thinking of. I know what she does and doesn't like..was just curious if there were things outside of that.Warrior74 said:dude. She's your girlfriend. You know her better than we do. Or do you? Maybe you should get to know her.
DarthNihilus
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If not its time to next.
Contrary to AFC beliefs its not better to have ANY woman than to be alone.
No.
Its better to be alone than to have a woman in your life who you're not attracted to and who doesn't enjoy the same things as you do or who you are attracted to but other than that you have nothing in common.
So your answer is most likely to find a girl who brings more to the table than just a warm body.
Well this is the post I'm running with anyway due to lack of much more information about your situation.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Lol, I like her for more than the fact she's a girl. I was just looking for more interesting things to do..not necessarily because I'm tired of the same old and she's unhappy doing anything.DarthNihilus said:Are there any qualities besides her being a female that make you attracted to her and want to be with her?
If not its time to next.
Contrary to AFC beliefs its not better to have ANY woman than to be alone.
No.
Its better to be alone than to have a woman in your life who you're not attracted to and who doesn't enjoy the same things as you do or who you are attracted to but other than that you have nothing in common.
So your answer is most likely to find a girl who brings more to the table than just a warm body.
Well this is the post I'm running with anyway due to lack of much more information about your situation.
Just asking for suggestions on other fun things to go out and do. Yall are whylin' haha.
playerone
Senior Don Juan
Ask her why she refuses to go out and have fun with you. If she doesn't want to go out, that's her problem. She can sit in the house and stare at the walls all day, but you got better things to do. You gave her a chance. She blew it.