"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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What the hell is wrong with me....

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I honestly can't date multiple girls.....

I always end up focusing on one, its not that I put them on a pedastel or anything. But find one I like and then all other girls no longer seem attractive at all.

Start of march met this girl, not massively pretty nor special but I got connected. Stood her up tho because I was ill (can't go out the house vomiting type ill, lasted for two weeks). She got all moody and thought I was playing games with her, so I cut contact.

Was out getting petrol. Hot girl that works starts chatting to me. I'm just on auto pilot just nodding looking into her eyes mentally undressing her not actually saying much. Was totally into me, but all I did was finally say, "anyways I must go nice meeting you and walked off".

All because I'm still hung up on march girl. Went on pof out of boredom last night, got this real hot girl asking for my number. I should be snapping up, but just can't be bothered.

In a week or two I'll have a different mindset and be open to girls again.....


Any ideas why I'm like this?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Like why do I only get attracted to one girl at a time?
 
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u r a young guy with no experience, no self esteem, and no ability?
 
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Oneitis.

It's like that kid neighbor you grew up, went to college and worked with. You later find out he was banging your mom and sister.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Guess I just get mini onitis..... Weird how other girls are easier when i have a case of it.
 
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Loki.7 said:
Guess I just get mini onitis..... Weird how other girls are easier when i have a case of it.
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They notice that you are not that interested in them which creates a challenge which creates attraction.
 
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NobodyCares1 said:
They notice that you are not that interested in them which creates a challenge which creates attraction.
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Yeah I guessed that... Can't see the point in wanting someone more because they don't give a crap about them. Kinda dumb if you ask me, meh that's women for you.

And does put the question in my mind why do I even bother to try to understand or care about this stuff.

Is devoting time to learning and understanding the irrational even worth my time.....
 
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BeginningDJ said:
Oneitis.

It's like that kid neighbor you grew up, went to college and worked with. You later find out he was banging your mom and sister.
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Lol BDJ I don't see how what you're describing is oneitis
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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