"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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What the hell is wrong with me....

Loki.7

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I honestly can't date multiple girls.....

I always end up focusing on one, its not that I put them on a pedastel or anything. But find one I like and then all other girls no longer seem attractive at all.

Start of march met this girl, not massively pretty nor special but I got connected. Stood her up tho because I was ill (can't go out the house vomiting type ill, lasted for two weeks). She got all moody and thought I was playing games with her, so I cut contact.

Was out getting petrol. Hot girl that works starts chatting to me. I'm just on auto pilot just nodding looking into her eyes mentally undressing her not actually saying much. Was totally into me, but all I did was finally say, "anyways I must go nice meeting you and walked off".

All because I'm still hung up on march girl. Went on pof out of boredom last night, got this real hot girl asking for my number. I should be snapping up, but just can't be bothered.

In a week or two I'll have a different mindset and be open to girls again.....


Any ideas why I'm like this?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Loki.7

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Like why do I only get attracted to one girl at a time?
 

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u r a young guy with no experience, no self esteem, and no ability?
 
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Oneitis.

It's like that kid neighbor you grew up, went to college and worked with. You later find out he was banging your mom and sister.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Loki.7

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Guess I just get mini onitis..... Weird how other girls are easier when i have a case of it.
 

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Loki.7 said:
Guess I just get mini onitis..... Weird how other girls are easier when i have a case of it.
They notice that you are not that interested in them which creates a challenge which creates attraction.
 

Loki.7

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NobodyCares1 said:
They notice that you are not that interested in them which creates a challenge which creates attraction.
Yeah I guessed that... Can't see the point in wanting someone more because they don't give a crap about them. Kinda dumb if you ask me, meh that's women for you.

And does put the question in my mind why do I even bother to try to understand or care about this stuff.

Is devoting time to learning and understanding the irrational even worth my time.....
 

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BeginningDJ said:
Oneitis.

It's like that kid neighbor you grew up, went to college and worked with. You later find out he was banging your mom and sister.
Lol BDJ I don't see how what you're describing is oneitis
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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