"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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What the hell is wrong with me....

Loki.7

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I honestly can't date multiple girls.....

I always end up focusing on one, its not that I put them on a pedastel or anything. But find one I like and then all other girls no longer seem attractive at all.

Start of march met this girl, not massively pretty nor special but I got connected. Stood her up tho because I was ill (can't go out the house vomiting type ill, lasted for two weeks). She got all moody and thought I was playing games with her, so I cut contact.

Was out getting petrol. Hot girl that works starts chatting to me. I'm just on auto pilot just nodding looking into her eyes mentally undressing her not actually saying much. Was totally into me, but all I did was finally say, "anyways I must go nice meeting you and walked off".

All because I'm still hung up on march girl. Went on pof out of boredom last night, got this real hot girl asking for my number. I should be snapping up, but just can't be bothered.

In a week or two I'll have a different mindset and be open to girls again.....


Any ideas why I'm like this?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Loki.7

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Like why do I only get attracted to one girl at a time?
 

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u r a young guy with no experience, no self esteem, and no ability?
 
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Oneitis.

It's like that kid neighbor you grew up, went to college and worked with. You later find out he was banging your mom and sister.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Guess I just get mini onitis..... Weird how other girls are easier when i have a case of it.
 

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Loki.7 said:
Guess I just get mini onitis..... Weird how other girls are easier when i have a case of it.
They notice that you are not that interested in them which creates a challenge which creates attraction.
 

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NobodyCares1 said:
They notice that you are not that interested in them which creates a challenge which creates attraction.
Yeah I guessed that... Can't see the point in wanting someone more because they don't give a crap about them. Kinda dumb if you ask me, meh that's women for you.

And does put the question in my mind why do I even bother to try to understand or care about this stuff.

Is devoting time to learning and understanding the irrational even worth my time.....
 

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BeginningDJ said:
Oneitis.

It's like that kid neighbor you grew up, went to college and worked with. You later find out he was banging your mom and sister.
Lol BDJ I don't see how what you're describing is oneitis
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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