I went to this party and there was this girl that I know. I was dressed all nice with a suit and tie. She kept smiling at me. So I went to the washroom and when i got out she was in the lobby. She comes up to me and gives me her card were she works. We kept talking and whatever. I find out shes a realtor. This party was on a friday, I call this girl on sunday and she didnt answer and I didnt leave a message. I call agian today and she didnt answer so this time I leave a message. I leave a message saying that I need to ask her about realestate. How long should I wait for her to call? Should I call her back if she doesnt call in a week?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
What should I do?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
This girls fine ass hell. I got a lady but this girl finer.http://www.sosuave.net/forum/images/smilies//whistle.gif
Who calls on the weekend to ask a real estate question? Right there you gave an excuse for your previous call. You should've held back until today. If she kept smiling, she didn't give you the card to discuss business.
"Hey, ABC this is XYZ. Some friends and I are going out for drinks on ___, you should come with us, we'll have a fun time. If you need to reach me 555-5555, bye." Pending this was a work number.
If she's interested, she'd call you. If not, then you move on to another girl. But you shouldn't be help up with just 1 anyways.
"Hey, ABC this is XYZ. Some friends and I are going out for drinks on ___, you should come with us, we'll have a fun time. If you need to reach me 555-5555, bye." Pending this was a work number.
If she's interested, she'd call you. If not, then you move on to another girl. But you shouldn't be help up with just 1 anyways.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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What was your conversation like at the party?
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Come on man, you've been here since Sept. I think you've taken indirect approach to the extreme. I don't recommend lying as to why you're calling. What's wrong with wanting to talk to girls?
Our conversation was about how I been, how she's been and what you been up to? She told me shes real busy with work. But when she approached me she just gave me her card. She said when ever you need help buying a house or something heres my card with a smile. I'm thinkng shes busy with work and she'll call me this weekend. The real estate thing was an excuse to call but I realy wanna get into real estate and I was going to ask her about where she went to to get her real estate liscense.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.